I was just recently married, and both my husband and I are working and going to school. We budget every penny. I feel so exhausted and cannot see the light in this. I know there is a light at the end of the tunnel but it is overwhelming at times. Sometimes I can’t even scrape up enough money for the extras – like having a coffee. Do you have any helpful hints on how to get through this time?
Sometimes it feels like we are working so hard and cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. Life can feel overwhelming and difficult. But God promises us that we will have abundance in this life. However, He never said it wouldn’t take work.
For even when we were with you, we gave you this rule: “The one who is unwilling to work shall not eat.” We hear that some among you are idle and disruptive. They are not busy; they are busybodies. Such people we command and urge in the Lord Jesus Christ to settle down and earn the food they eat. 2 Thessalonians 3:10-12 (NIV)
He gave us so much to enjoy, but we have to use our hands to enjoy the rewards.
I remember a time when my husband and I began our life journey, and we lived in a basement suite. At the time I was a hairdresser and he worked in a grocery store. Looking back, I do think we got too serious about life too quickly and did not enjoy it to the fullest. Although we didn’t have a lot of discretionary money, we seemed to muddle through things.
If I could go back in time, I would tell myself “Enjoy the now”.
Enjoying the now means
- Being present
- Loving each other and not putting too much pressure in achieving what “society sets as a standard”
- Giving of ourselves – helping others that are in need (this can be in small or big ways)
- Having more doesn’t make life more full
- Loving our family and friends and spending our time with them as much as possible
It is easy to get caught up in everything around us. Everywhere you look people are looking to physically attain wealth or the material “things” in this world. But ultimately when it comes down to it, wealth comes from love.
Love of ones self,
Love of family,
Love of friends,
And Love for others (our neighbours).
Seems simple right? But it can be so difficult, we have to pull ourselves back. We have to learn how to refocus, reprioritize and not worry too much about getting to the finish line on time.
Paul told Timothy, “Command those who are rich in this present age not to be haughty, nor to trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who gives us richly all things to enjoy.” (1 Timothy 6:17)
Rest your mind my friend, and trust in the Lord in all things. Present your worries to Him and He will answer. Sometimes it is not in our time, but in his time. So remember, be patient.
Lastly, I came across this wonderful poem the other day that really sums up how we should focus in this life:
Recipe of Life
“Begin with a case of Joy,
Add a heaping spoonful of gratitude,
Fold in a large dollop of kindness,
Stir in a handful of Forgiveness,
Sprinkle liberally with Love and cover with Peace,
Always serve with a large scale of Faith.” (author Unknown)
What a wonderful way to navigate through life. May you be blessed beautiful lady.
Dear Lord God,
You know our worries, fears and anxieties. I lift up the worries of Chelsea and any other individuals that are finding it difficult to make a go of it. Help them, pour your wisdom, faith and discernment into their lives. Guide them in their day-to-day activities. Teach them to realize that through You, we can rest. I pray for this in Jesus’ Name Amen.
Blessings to you beautiful lady,
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