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a new dayEvery morning when we wake up, we have a fresh opportunity to do something new.

To make change happen.

To right a wrong; whether it is in our hearts or a relationship close to us.

Today is a NEW DAY!

What can you do to cause change in your realm of influence today? Here are some ideas:

  1. Invite a friend that you haven’t seen for ages to lunch or for coffee
  2. Volunteer for an outreach project at your church or in your community
  3. Send a card to someone who is sick, sad, or just plain needs encouragement
  4. Sit quietly with someone you love and enjoy what God has placed before you. Shut out the constant onslaught of life and just simply be together. Watch the sunset or birds go about their business. The idea is to just be together.  It can totally change your relationship!

These are just a few ideas of simple changes that you can make in your day, and possibly someone else s. Be resolved to change….today…..tomorrow….and everyday that you are given on this earth!  Have a beautiful life ~ today!

Soli Deo Gloria!

dear Vanessa ~ the Season’s in our lives


seasons of our lives

Image of VanessaDear Vanessa,

A good friend of mine recently passed away.   My heart aches; he was a father, son, husband, and friend.   I just feel so lost, and feel such deep sadness… I look at my children, and selfishly I am wishing that will never happen to me.    I sit here and ask why?  And then I just feel so sad every time I think about it I can’t stop crying.


Dearest Kara,

Nothing can prepare us for the loss of someone we love and care about.   There are seasons in our life where everything seems to flow well, and it feels so perfect.   Then there are the seasons when the rain pours down, and we feel like we can barely stay afloat – we want that life jacket.  There are also seasons where the sunshine is begins to peak through the clouds, and we have direction and know how to follow the light.

Each season contributes to who we are.   I am learning this.    I believe we are meant to take in the seasons and not resist them.   These seasons bring us closer together, help us lean on others, and show us how to relinquish control.

Death…Is difficult and seems so final.

One of the hardest times in my life was when I lost my grandfather and grandmother all in one year.  The fall before the loss occurred, both of them drove out to come visit our family, they bought my young toddler son two things: 1) A ball fort to through balls in and roll around in, and a 2) barney doll that sings the following song “I love you, you love me, we are a happy family”.

I remember that weekend like it was just yesterday, grandma and grandpa were so happy to be in our company.   I was so thankful that I could feed them, and treat them like royalty because they had done the same for me all my life.    A few months later, my grandfather suddenly died, and I assisted in making the decision to take him off of life support.  I felt like I was in a dream.  A few months later, after declining mentally, my grandmother left this world.   She was in a care home at the time, and the nurse wheeled her into the atrium, moments later she was gone.

Through those months in my life, I felt like I was living in a dream.  My bubble felt broken, questions came, why, why now?  And feelings came, sadness, anger, emptiness.


In those months, my relationship with my mom and dad strengthened, I leaned on my husband for support, I realized a big thing – life is not about what we have, it is about who we have.  Every time I sang/listened to the Barney doll sing “I love you, you love me, we are a happy family.” I would think of my grandparents.

I also realized that God was there, He wanted to teach me, He wanted me to lean on Him in all things.   I would say at the time I was taking baby steps and He opened up His arms and took me in.

I actually felt like during that time, I could hear Him and feeling Him so close.

The night my grandfather died, I was crying and I was so mad…  I prayed like crazy and I am sure said a few words to God that were not normally me.  But after I said those words, a thought came back, “When one life passes, another is given.”   At the time I didn’t know what that statement meant.  The day following, everywhere I went there were babies…. A few hours later I did a pregnancy test, and I was pregnant.   Impossible I thought…

Everything is possible with God.

The pain you are feeling is real and you need to feel it.    Sometimes it takes months or years to heal the wounds completely.

We are human.  We love and we feel loss.

In reflecting on your own family situation, you feel blessed on the abundance that you have been given.  There is nothing wrong with wanting what you have to continue.

This is a normal reaction and feeling.

We do have to realize that we are only on this earth for a short time.   I truly believe the events such as this that trigger deep sadness, make us realize how precious life is, and how we should live each moment to the fullest.

These moments create closeness.  God wants us to come to Him in everything, and lean on Him completely in our times where we feel empty.   He can make us feel full.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. (Philippians 4:6 (NIV))

The other amazing thing is that our lives do not end; it is simply the beginning of something better for us.   A place where we are all the pain is gone, a place where the sun shines on us every day.

He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away.” He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” Then he said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” He said to me: “It is done. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the Beginning and the End. To him who is thirsty I will give to drink without cost from the spring of the water of life.  He who overcomes will inherit all this, and I will be his God and he will be my son. (Revelation 21:4-7 NIV)


Dear Lord God,

I pray for all those that have experienced loss in their lives.  Help them to sort through the emotions and pain.  May you lift them up, bring them peace.  I pray for this in Jesus’ Name Amen.

May you be blessed beautiful lady,


If you have a question for Vanessa please email her at [email protected]

You can also read Vanessa’s personal blog and journey at www.nesschesters.wordpress.com


Lessons from Lazarus



Normally I would cover one of the more important aspects of our chapter of the week, to do a more in-depth study of that particular subject. But as I read through it, one particular story brought tears to my eyes and I thought that I would just share that with you, for it pretty much says it all.  Here is that excerpt from the book “Having a Mary Heart in a Martha World” Chapter 8- Lessons from Lazarus by Joanna Weaver:


            “Philip wasn’t like the other children at church. Though he was a pleasant happy boy, he struggled with things that came easily to other kids.  He looked different, too, and everyone knew it was because he had Down syndrome. His Sunday school teacher worked hard to get the third grade class to play together, but Philips disability made it difficult for him to fit in.

            Easter was just around the corner, and the teacher had a wonderful idea for his class. He gathered the big plastic eggs that pantyhose used to come in and gave one to each child.  Then, together, they went outside into a beautiful spring day.

            “I want each of you to find something that reminds you of Easter – of new life,” the teacher explained. “Put it in the egg and when we get inside we’ll share what we found.”

            The search was glorious.  It was confusing. It was wild. The boys and girls ran all over the church grounds gathering their symbols until finally, breathlessly, the eight-year-olds were ready to return inside.

            They put their eggs on the table, then one by one the teacher began to open them.  The children stood around the table watching.

            He opened one, and there was a flower.  Everybody ohhed and aahed.

            He opened another and found a butterfly. “Beautiful,” all the girls said.

            He opened another and out fell a rock.  The kids laughed. “A rock?” But the boy who’d found it said, I knew you would all get flowers and leaves and stuff, so I go a rock cause I wanted to be different.  That’s new life to me.”  The kids laughed again.

            But when the teacher opened the next egg, the group fell silent. There’s nothing there!” said one child. “That’s stupid,” said another. “Somebody didn’t do it right.”

            Just then the teacher felt a tug on his shirt and turned to see Philip standing beside him. “It’s mine,” Philip said. “It’s mine.”

            The children said, “You don’t ever do things right, Philip. There’s nothing there!”             “I DID SO,” Philip said. “I did do it right. It’s empty. The tomb is empty!”

            There was another silence. A very deep, unlike-eight-year-olds kind of silence. And at that moment a miracle happened.  Philip became a part of that third-grade Sunday school class. They took him in.  He was set free from the tomb of his different ness.  From then on, Philip was their friend.

            Three months later, Philip died. His family had known since the time he was born that he wouldn’t live out a full life span. An infection that most children would have quickly shrugged off took the life out of his body.

            The day of the funeral, the church was filled with people mourning Philips death. But it was the sight of nine third graders walking down the aisle with their Sunday school teacher that brought tears to most eyes. 

            The children didn’t bring flowers. Instead, they marched right up to the altar, and placed on it an empty egg – an empty, old, discarded pantyhose egg.”


What an unbelievable illustration for us! God’s promise of new life.  Within the sadness of this story, we need to see the beauty, the beauty of Jesus’ gift of eternal life.


Enough said!

Trust in God’s promises!