From the minute our eyes open in the morning, we are faced with choices.
- What will I have for breakfast?
- Which task on my to-do list will I tackle first?
- How will I spend my money, or free time?
Studies show that the average person makes approximately 35,000 conscious choices each day. I have to say, that is a seriously large amount of choices! It boggles my mind to think that I will need to make that many decisions today, especially when I can’t even decide between scrambled and sunny side up eggs.
Multiply that by 35,000! [I think I may just go back to bed.]
The opportunity for getting at least a few of those choices wrong is statistically huge, and if you are a teenager, those statistics increase exponentially. I have certainly had the lion’s share of teen angst in my house, as well as bad or questionable decisions made against my wishes. As parents we get frustrated and angry when our rules are not followed, our advice is not taken, or the decisions of our children come back to haunt us. We get mad. We yell. Sometimes they learn.
But mostly, they wake up the next day and do it all over again.
So here’s the thing –
Jesus said there would be trouble in this life; it is a fact of this life.
Perfect? ….that comes later.
Generally speaking, the choices that we make each and every day, while important, won’t define our entire lives, or that of your child’s. Mistakes will be made, sown seed will be reaped, and the lessons learned will serve to make us stronger, and hopefully wiser. Some choices will live with us forever, but Jesus overcame the world for such a time as this. He overcame this world so that through Him we would have His peace.
I had spent the better part of 2 years stressing about my daughter’s poor decisions. I paid large amounts of money in an effort to spare her the pain of those choices, yet more came and trouble with it. It wasn’t until I stepped back and resisted the urge to rescue her from herself that real growth came. I prayed and watched. And at first things got worse….much worse.
But then: a breakthrough.
The breakthrough was spiritual. She was not a believer. But in her hit bottom moment of desperation, she began to pray….
…and God was faithful!
She still has a long road to travel, both spiritually and in the world of good decisions, but hope has replaced fear, and the knowledge of God’s love and concern for her has become evident. I believe it is through the prayers of a mother, that real change can take place in the lives of their children, and sometimes a step back is necessary to allow God to work within their hearts.
Don’t get me wrong, it is hard. No one wants to see their child suffer. But the good and godly decisions don’t come easily, and possibly not at all if that desperate moment isn’t reached.
Pray and Trust
God loves them so very much….even more than you do.