dear vanessa ~ Changes in Life

August dear vanessa changes in life

Dear Vanessa,

Over the past few years I have experienced some losses that have triggered introspection.    I have seen the face of God many times during these events and have come to realize that how we live makes all the difference.    But while going through this journey I have noticed that many relationships have changed.    This has been difficult for me, because many have been with me for most of my life.    At times I am confused and wonder if I am making the right decisions, am I headed in the right direction? How can I be sure?

Feeling confused,



Dearest Peggy,

Yes, as we experience changes in our life, these changes reveal to us what we require in order to feel full.   I do believe that this is part of God’s master plan.   Everything is created for His good.  Your question about heading in the right direction… That is a tough one, and it is one that only you can answer.

And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.  (Romans 8:28 ESV)

I can share with you my experiences of the changes that have occurred in my life.    I am thankful for the moments that take my breath away, where I feel so happy I can burst at the seams or the times where the hurt is so bad that I cry out for help.    These have been the moments that have contributed to a greater focus in my life, and by the grace of God, He has provided me a looking glass of what He has planned for me.

My focus has changed, and I have realized that I need to take care of my health first and foremost so that I can extend myself for others.  In nurturing myself, I want to start and end my day with Him and maintain the close connection.   I can only do this if my life is not overextended.    I have also realized that my relationship with my husband is one of the greatest gifts.  He was made just for me, and I should never take that for granted.   I should nurture this relationship as much as I can.    Two other gifts that have been given to me are my precious sons, I am so thankful for the lessons as a parent.  I choose to be plugged into their lives, and this means choosing the “right” balance for us as a family (with God’s guiding hand).     My broader family, the ones that are close, are meant to be held close.   We are joined to support and love one another.   And then my extended family, my friends that will be there through the sunshine and the rain.

My priorities seem simple, but I live a messy life like most.   This messy life has its challenges and many times I feel torn between all of the priorities.     I have also found that as I have changed my priorities, some relationships have changed.   Makes sense doesn’t it?   If we change as people, we will bring into our life the people that are willing to change or adapt with us.

It has been hard at times, because I have had to let go of some relationships.    Relationships should not be forced, they should be welcomed and wanted.   Has there been a time in your life where you have felt like you had to force something?   How did you feel? For me, when I have to force something I don’t feel like myself.    Don’t get me wrong, all relationships require work in some way, but when you feel like the work is all on one side and doesn’t start from a place of love -  it may be time to let go.

Change isn’t easy, but if you feel good about the changes, then keep riding the waves.    I truly believe the changes in our life are created for good.    If you are not sure about something, I would pray about it.  God will direct your paths.

Dear Lord God,

Thank-you for this messy life.   I ask you direct our paths and keep them straight.   Please guide us in our decisions and surround us with the people that love and support us.   Guide our focus Lord.  I pray for this in Jesus Name.

May you be blessed beautiful lady.



Are you feeling confused or in need of some guidance?  Pause… And Pray.

You can visit Vanessa’s personal blog at or email her at [email protected] if you have any questions or comments – they are very much welcome!



Tags: appreciation, confused, differences, focus, , His purpose, introspection, life change, margin, nurture, overextended, plugged in, , thankful, the right decisions, the right direction

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