The girl’s face was always dirty, her nails were broken, her hair unwashed, and her dress tattered. Most days she knew she was broken, alone, unlovable, and worthless. But on the darkest of days she still felt, deep inside, that the King in his castle far up on the mountain was a good King. The knowledge that there was goodness in the world kept her from despair.
And the king of all loves is agape, the unconditional love demonstrated best by God in his unexpected and improbable love for humanity. “This was the love that Jesus felt for humanity, and it was so great that it shook the stars and changed the course of man’s history.”*
Marriage starts with eros, is sustained through philia, is protected for a time by a shared storge, and is undergirded by agape.